Ah, ok. So the trans character in Kafuka that I didn't notice was trans when I first read the book (or at least didn't remember as a salient detail of their character) might equally be intersex. The no breasts and no periods ever are suggestive of that, a detail one notices more when reading the Japanese.

That 'oldest thing' meme going around got me thinking what the oldest thing I own is. Thought it was the  early 19th century Chinese vase I inherited from my father until I remembered the neolithic pot shard a Saiyuki fan sent me once. Then I tried to remember who that was. Old ML names after 20 years... but I think it was lorelei who might also have been figbash. Figbash I actually met, though I'd forgotten the fact. Must have been after the second Shoujo-con  in New York. And I think she was the one who lived just up from the twin towers and watched the deadly dust rise up. But that would have been two months after the convention. And was she the same as lorelei? I thought lorelei was earlier... 

And then I remembered that I have still messages in my old OE dating back to the late 90s so I went looking there. Still don't know if I'm conflating two people but boywas that a lot of instant time travel. Have been disoriented ever since. Adding happily to the disorientation is that my knees and back have miraculously stopped hurting, or at least stopped hurting any more than they did in mumble mumble 2016. Don't expect this to continue but right now I'll take it.